Step 1 – Surviving The Recent Loss Of A Loved One
Do You Need Some Relief?
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When To Get Medical Assistance
Tips On How To Help Yourself
FREE Guided Meditations
How I Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving
Learn About & How To Create Your Grief Zone
Sign Up To Create Your Grief Zone
When To Get Medical Assistance:
Start With A Quick Assessment:
#1 Do you feel like you are in crisis & need help right away? If so, call 988(USA) RIGHT NOW.
Or click https://988lifeline.org/
#2 Do you have existing physical or mental health issues that feel worse because of your grief?
#3Do you have unfamiliar physical or mental health issues since this loss?
If You Answered Yes To #2 or #3 – Seek Medical Help Immediately.
Linda M Hughes,
Psychic Medium
Personal Coach
While Getting Medical Assistance,
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Please Read The Following For Immediate Ways That You Can Help Yourself!
Self care is the most important priority always, especially after losing a loved one.
Deep, healing sleep matters most of all! After losing each of my loved ones, I retreated into myself sleeping as much as I could. The pain and overwhelm was so big, so unimaginable that my body completely shut down. I believe this was MY body's healthy response, while in sleep, the reality was gently rolling into my consciousness.
Grief is also physical. Whether you want to or not, make sure to eat balanced meals. Eat enough calories and nutrients to help your body get through this time. Drink water to stay hydrated.
Absolutely avoid alcohol or recreational drugs right now, you don't need the extra drama.
If you decide to follow this advice and have been a heavy drinker up to now, please ask those medical professionals for help in stopping. Depending on your consumption habits, quitting cold turkey could be dangerous.
Did you have a regular exercise routine before your loss?
If you did, modify it to fit and keep doing it. If you did not, consider taking up short walks in nature.
“Real life” won’t let you get away with “grieving” for long, or at all.
If you have family or friends nearby, let them help you. Let them send you food, help you take care of your affairs, help you keep track of and handle the immediate legal and financial details of death.
If you do not have any others that you can trust to do these things for you, hire out what you can. Or, if this is not possible, pace yourself. Consciously choose your most productive times of day to work on these issues. In this productive time only, prioritize by importance and get things done quickly. And then stop. Now is not the time to become bogged down with unnecessary busy work. Really! If it wasn't important before this loss, it can wait until later, when life is less chaotic!
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For Those Days When It All Gets To Be Too Much,
I Share The Following 2 Free Guided Meditations With You:
If You Need To Turn Down:
The Noise Of Grief In Your Head
- Click to download this free mp3
Fifteen minutes long, it is recommended that you listen to it while laying down, either getting ready to nap or go to sleep.
If You Feel Like You Are Spinning Out Of Control &
Can’t Find Solid Ground:
Ground, Center, Stabilize
aka My Tree Of Life Meditation:
- Click to download this free mp3
Twelve minutes long, it works for anytime of day or night.
As recorded, you will need to lie down,
however, once learned, it fits any situation.
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How I Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving:
As you know, grieving is not a choice. It's thrust upon you, shocking no matter how long you had to prepare for it. Want to curl up in a ball & just be left alone?
But real life is always butting in. And some things won’t wait. As time goes by, you figure out how to "muddle" through.
Right here and now, I want you to know that your new life is going to wait for you on the other side of the “muddle”. So don't let “muddling through” become a habit that you keep. Stay engaged in your life! Even when it sucks.
Here Is How I Do It.
I
Compartmentalize
My Life.
I wanted private time to grieve however I chose,
while dealing with real life issues.
So, I created a Grief Zone and I allocated time to it every day.
Because when I had to be in real life, I was all in.
But, I could escape at an appointed time, to enter the Grief Zone.
I cried, I screamed, I hugged my husband’s pillow, I held my son’s stinky T shirt to my nose. And later, when I lost my Mom, I gently caressed her personal mementos. Anything to be near them in some way. And it was fabulously ok.
I started an epic journal, because writing is my thing.
I chose to write about the pain and anguish of these experiences, storing it on my computer.
At times, it felt like I would never be able to leave this foggy, heart crushing grief.
After a particularly bad session, I would slam this book closed and stomp away.
Wow! The writing of it absolutely gave me:
a sense of control over the things
that I had no control over &
could never change.
Walking away from it gave me a great sense of peace.
So then I did this on purpose.
Eventually, I was able to spend less and less of my time in the Grief Zone.
Then and only then, was I able to start writing and living in the next chapters of my Book Of Life. Because, at my Decision Point, I chose to live full on, 100%.
I don’t have a title yet, but it might be “Learning To Live My Life Without My Loved Ones”.
Grief doesn’t end, you just get used to it.
Now, when I need to, I can bookmark the page in the current chapter, to slip back for a visit into my Grief Zone.
I also discovered that my Grief Zone became a safe haven for artistically and physically expressing this ultimate human experience.
To Learn How To Create Your Own Grief Zone, Scroll Down.
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Need A Break From "Real Life"? Need A Break From Your Grief?
If You Do & Want To Try What I Do, Let Me Help You Create Your Grief Zone!
Your Grief Zone is a “place” you create to:
...feel the grief, express it in a healthy way, and plant creative seeds for your own future.
You Choose Where To Put It:
...outside, inside, mental, physical
You Choose What To Do In Your Grief:
...writing, reading, creating art, exercise in all its forms, whatever turns you on!
You Choose how, with whom and when you want to share it.
Most importantly, this will give your grief:
...a place to live, evolving from destruction to transformation, even as the rest of your life demands your attention.
Creating Your Own Grief Zone.
Interested? If So, You Have A Couple Choices:
Choice #1: You Can Create Your Grief Zone By Yourself, Using Many Of The Ideas I Just Gave You.
I love this for you! Start brainstorming! Take action! Have Fun!
But, Like SO Many Things, They Can Be Easy To Do AND Even Easier NOT To Do.
Choice #2: I will guide you through the process of creating your Grief Zone.
Together we will schedule and meet online only, for 1 hour session/week for 5 weeks:
Each week, I will encourage you to keep going, even when it gets hard,
And in that final week, we will finetune & celebrate the completion of your Grief Zone!
This creation process will include completing a series of structured steps that:
Help you brainstorm and design this special "place" for grieving,
Which you can finetune on your own and as you use the space.
There Is Only One Thing Left To Do!
Sign Up For A FREE 1 Hour Private Session With Me!
Ask your questions about Step One!
Then, I will talk about the 3 different pricing plans available, these are:
1. Private, one on one time with me,
2. Or to allow for co-creation time with up to 3 other family members,
3. Or to enroll in a self-directed course, with check-in times as needed.
I look forward to meeting with you soon!
Sincerely, Linda Marie