Linda M Hughes, Psychic Medium

What Is A Grief Zone? Why Do You Need One ? How Can You Start?

Linda M Hughes psychic medium and grief coach here. Today we are going to talk about what is your grief zone, why do you need one and how can you start.

The Grief Zone starts out as a healthy escape from the crushing weight of your immediate grief. It is a “space of grace” where you can bank the spiritual and emotional energy that you will need to live a life without that loved one. Over time, the original purpose may expand out, becoming that sacred space you retreat to when contemplating other important life changes.

Immediately, it is a place you create that allows you to separate the “real life” demands from the sacred time that you need to properly grieve the loss of your loved one.

Today, I am not going to start this discussion with those “real life” demands. You already know them, you are there, you are right in the thick of it, right now. Just know that you can do this. In your darkest night, in your saddest day, and in your loneliest hour, just know that you have what it takes to get through this part of your journey.

So, for the next few minutes, take a break while I introduce you to the Grief Zone, so that you have something to daydream about when you are feeling crushed by the reality of your life right now. Someday, in your real life, it will become less about survival and more about learning to live with this loss. Then and now, I want you to create this daydream and when ready, I will show you how to turn it into reality. I will be here to help you walk through every step of the process, so don’t worry, it is not just another “make work” for you to do alone.

When I was struggling to escape the new reality of life, needing to review our memories together and just let my love for them pour out in hot tears and then quiet acceptance and finally, extreme gratitude for getting to be a part of their lives, and loves, I compartmentalized my life.

For every “reality of life” I had to face, I tracked the time. And then I gave equal time to grieving my loved ones the way that I chose. I started thinking of this as my “grief zone” time. And thus, the idea was born and titled. Continuing to use this whole idea, that while I was cherishing the memories of my loved ones, I might as well include the things I like to do, but had no more time for. Such as actively daydreaming my future, physical activity, or artistic endeavors like creative writing.

Now, you could include any type of activity, as long as it allows you to continue gathering spiritual and emotional strength. After a while, I started noticing that my Grief Zone stability and peace of mind was seeping into the “real life” demands time. Of course, these real life demands were becoming less cruel and intrusive, at the same point. So I don’t really know which one came first or which one did the most good. But either way, I noticed that I was beginning to feel much more comfortable in taking much more control in the direction of my life.
My Grief Zone daydreams were starting to take real shape.

So what did this look like, what shape did they take and can you do the same thing?

My daydreams involved how I was going to live without my loved ones. I dreamed about honoring their lives by making mine count in some way. I wanted to show them that their contributions to my life had mattered. I wanted to take the ball from their hands and run it into the game zone of our lives.

I am & have always been an entrepreneur and coach. So, I knew that my dream was going to be realized by helping people. And when adding up all the components, they equaled what I am doing today, while you are listening in.
Yes, you can do the same thing. It just takes your imagination and the willingness to give it the time required. The wonderful thing is that you get to decide what time that will be.

When you are ready to create your own Grief Zone, do these very important things:
1. First is to create a “place” that you can go to when your real life demands are overwhelming. And it may mean a physical place, but what I really mean is, where you can mentally go to create, to escape, to feel sad, to do whatever you need to do.

2. Consider stopping by Step 3, Reconnecting With Yourself. It never hurts to run yourself through some exercises and thought processes & new ways of thinking about thought just to get grounded and centered and stable.

3. Stay tuned to this podcast, youtube playlist or my blog for details on how and when we will start the next Grief Zone Building Project.

I developed a 5 week course to create the Grief Zone. I then finetuned it and use to offer it as a workshop. Now, I am sharing the course work for each of the 5 weeks here on my blog, or with Spotify or YouTube. I only post once a month, to allow you the time to work on assignments while living your busy life. Of course, depending on when you see this, I might eventually have them all up!

I am thrilled to offer this to you, so stay tuned for more. And as always, love, peace, hope and inspiration to you. Thank you for listening.