Action #1 - The 2nd Level Of Self Care:

If You Are In Having An Emergency - call 911
For Other Care/Support,
Please - call 988(USA) RIGHT NOW.
Or click https://988lifeline.org/

Step 3 2nd Level Self CareGive yourself the gift of self esteem and self value

 

Put yourself at the top of your to do list!
Check out the following 2nd Level Self Care Tips:

Reclaim your own personal sense of value & self-esteem.
Those are the greatest gifts you can give yourself.

And they are totally free, easy and within your control to do so.

 

Restful sleep - Step 3 - Rebuilding Your Life After Loss At Linda M Hughes psychic medium

1. When you first come out of sleep, before you start thinking:

-immediately notice and take control of your breathing,
-keep the relaxed, soothing breathing pattern that you had during sleep,
-or if it wasn’t relaxed, calm yourself and intentionally bring it into that state,
-if you need help with this, contact me.

2. Next, take time to be grateful.
-The 1st time I tried this, the only thing I could think of was "my toothpaste tasted great this morning",
-Start small, start slow, but start.

I read somewhere that it is impossible to be sad if you are expressing your gratitude.  I don’t know if that is true for everyone, but it seems to work for me and it just might work for you.

Step 3 rebuilding your inner life after loss by taking better care of your heart3. Before you get out of bed:
-Gently roll to your side,
-raise yourself slowly up with your arms,
-pause,
-breathe deeply,
-slowly move your legs over to the edge of the bed
-and then raise yourself to a standing position.

I read about this awhile ago and try to practice it every day.  Reasons given for doing this are to care for your heart.  In sleep mode, your overall resting state means that:
-your heart rate slows down (often to between 40 and 60 beats per minute for a healthy adult),
-blood pressure decreases,
-the body conserves energy and focuses on rest and repair,
-which is a vital part of the body's daily cycle, allowing the cardiovascular system a period of reduced workload.

When you blast out of bed and hit the ground running, you shock your heart into instant, full on work mode. Going the slow route might help your heart function better, longer. At the least, you will catch a moment of personal zen before you begin the rough and tumble of your day. It's simple, easy and free, so why not try it?

Step 3 Mind Body Emotion Reconnection Exercise Art

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Action #2: What's Wrong With You?

The Purpose Of Step 3 Is To Reconnect You With Yourself.
Why Is This So Important?

Step 3 rebuilding your life after loss - finding solid groundHere is why it became important to me. Even though I use the actions/steps I recommend to you, I still feel the kick in the chest from the memories of the loss of my loved ones. Initially, I felt like everything was my fault.  If only I had... why didn't I see this sooner... What if I had... What if I had stopped... I know, it happened because... on and on it went. Every day was another acceptance of blame, shame and guilt. I was felt like if I wore this guilt and accepted the blame/shame, that somehow they would be returned to me.

And then in even more disgust, I would mutter to myself, "What is wrong with me?"

About 6 months after the loss of my husband, I knew I had to find a way to connect to something solid and real, the only thing I KNEW was real, was me. I was solid, I was real, I existed. I didn’t like anything about me at that moment in time, but at least it was a place to start.

In my search for any solutions to the problems I had at that moment, I did find one that was immensely helpful for reconnecting with myself. As we get to know each other and if you are willing, I will share more and more of this tool with you.

For today, I  introduce you to what I call a "Thought Exercise - For Your Daily Mental Workout!":

"The World Is NOT What You Think It Is, It IS What You Think"

This video clip explains this perfectly, check it out:

Considering all of the things on your plate right now, changing how you think is probably not a top priority. Until it is, try this out.

Ever noticed that your well meaning support people and even strangers may greet you, by saying:

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What’s Wrong?

Or have you ever said this to yourself?

What else can go wrong?

 

And then, just like wicked magic something IS wrong and something DOES go wrong.

So, Let’s Change This!!!!
Let’s kick this 1st “Thought Exercise” into high gear!

First of all, change “you” to “me”.
Next, change the word “wrong” to “right”.

What’s right with me?

What else can go right today?

Consider the possibility that there is nothing wrong with you!!!!
Then let your day flow forward.


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For me, it worked like warm, loving magic.
All of a sudden, I could look in the mirror for more than a second of disgust.

And then I noticed that things started to go my way,
they just started to change for the better.

You may have to gently guide your
support people in making these adjustments.

They will, because they only want the best for you!

This will help you retrain yourself to look for  the “right”
instead of “ the wrong” things in your life.


Old habits don’t change overnight. Give yourself that "space of grace" to try and then do.
Small, tiny steps forward add up to some serious ground covered at the end of a week.

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Action 3: What's Right With You?

We will work with the 1st “Thought Exercise” while combining it with a new one:

"You Are Only One Thought Away From A Different Reality"

I will show you how adjusting thoughts about yourself can change the reality of your life.
The great news about this thought exercise is that you can keep going with this on your own.
You can also apply it to other parts of your life.

Not so great is that this Action #3 will require more of our time than we can give it from this webpage.
Don't worry, I got a plan!
I created a Workshop so that we can meet online and do Actions 3, 4 and 5 together!
More on this later - first find out about Actions #4 & 5!


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Action #4: What Are Your Unique Soul Level Gifts?

Discover Your Soul Level Gifts As Researched In The Akashic Records by Linda M HughesIn this Action #4 we are going to explore your Unique Gifts – those things that make you so unique, wonderful and valuable, in your world and the world at large.   I believe that you were born with these unique gifts and they have led you to make definite choices on how you have chosen to live your life.

Some of these gifts were no doubt genetic and very much a part of your physical life.  I also believe that some of them were spiritual gifts from your God/ Creator, available by researching the Akashic Records.

The Akashic Records are "believed to be a compendium of all universal events, thoughts, words, emotions, and intent ever to have occurred in the past, present, or future, regarding not just humans, but all entities and life forms. They are believed by theosophists to be encoded in a non-physical plane of existence known as the mental plane."

Don’t fret if you have different or no beliefs, I won’t force you to proceed with or do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.  I do ask you to keep an open mind, as l share the benefits you may receive from the use of it.

It is my hope that no matter which route you choose to find your unique, special gifts, by re-discovering them, you will be able to re-connect with yourself. And by re-connecting with yourself, you will be able to move forward in your own life again.

In Action #4,  With Your Permission, I Want To Research The Akashic Records,
To Prepare A Report For You, Listing Your Unique Soul Level Gifts.
As Promised, Please Read The Following Frame Of Reference.

For Those Of You Who Do Not Want To Receive An Akashic Record Report On Your Unique Soul Level Gifts,
I Will Be Including More "Traditional" Methods For Assessing Your Personal Gifts,
So That You Can Continue To Benefit From Action #4.


This Action will require more of our time than we can give it from this webpage.

Don't worry, I got a plan!
I created a Workshop so that we can meet online and do Actions 3, 4 and 5 together!
More on this later - now let's find out about our final Action #5 in Step 3!

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Thoughts From Those Who Requested The 2 Part Akashic Record Report

Learn More About Our Tarot TL-CommunityLinda M Hughes, psychic medium uses the High Priestess of Tarot to encourage her clients to use their intuition

Let Me Help You Ignite Your Intuition! 

How can you learn to recognize it?  How can you learn to trust it?
Allow me to introduce you to this 2nd, fairly well known tool.
No need for a Frame Of Reference, as it has become a widely accepted coaching tool.

The Tarot

I use the Tarot in combination with all of my other coaching techniques.
Done regularly, it can begin to serve as a continuing track record of choices with successful solutions.
This track record will help you build trust, gain confidence and encourage creative thinking within yourself.

How? Specifically, How can it help?

My clients and I agree that it helps the most with long term solutions and short term fixes.  Things like:

Tarot TLC will sharpen your own intuitionTarot TLC can help you in your every day life

- how to prioritize your energy & attention,
- deciding the right questions to ask yourself,
- asking for what  you really want,
- finding out what is holding you back from getting it,
- figuring out what "tools" you need,
- best of all, what success will look like when you get there?

Regarding How I Use Tarot In My Coaching:
What It Will NOT Do Is Predict Your Future.
I Believe And Encourage You To Believe
That Our Futures Are Always A Moving Target,
As Every Thought We Think Adjusts That Future.

In Action #5, I Want To Show You How The Tarot Can Help Reconnect You With Yourself,
By Leading You Through A One Hour Tarot Assisted Coaching Session.

This Action will require more of our time than we can give it from this webpage.

Enjoy The Tarot Testimonials Below
And Then Scroll Down So We Can Review This Plan I Keep Talking About:
How To DO Action #'s 3, 4 and 5!

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Shares From Those Who Have Experienced Tarot With Linda M Hughes

Holy *&!( lady *&!( lol I have so much to say about this one lol)
Can we talk?

Man...I definitely have felt this energy. Thank yoooou !!

Wow, that's a good one ✨️
Just the monkey mind portion and the question of how to let go of some things
Release...

Your description is like so, I don't have words for how that hit me
?????

This was spot on and the reminder to take breaks was much needed lol

Oooooo that's interesting!! Can't wait to see what this week brings!! Thank you Linda!! ?

I love this…yep NEW things are all over the place….
I’m embracing change and stepping into my most true self…more spontaneity, letting plans go when they don’t fit…trying to live with joy.
learning…still trying to learn…acceptance.

Thanks, Linda. The Tower card is incredibly appropriate for this week in several parts of my life. I think you’re right - there are some shaky foundations that need to be torn down and some more authentic ones built in their place.

This week was absolutely correct, absolutely.

That's kinda what it feels like. Is I'm about to be reborn. Lol
I have lots of heavy big life decisions coming up. I feel em.
Thank you Linda! Definitely resonates

Thank you for my reading it feels 100% right for this week ?

Today I was struggling to find focus and then I remembered to go back and read this tarot reading. I set intention every day and give myself a word. Today I chose discipline - before I read your email. Looks like we’re on the same page!

Thanks, Linda! Another very relevant reading!!

All I can say is….. we are truly connected!

I came home and read this to start my day…WOW

I wanted to let you know I read and am excited by this reading.
I want to go back to this reading after work and re read and ABSORB
all that is being communicated in words…and in pictures i create
in my mind. That needs focus time and is planned for tonight.

All I can n say right now is WOW.
Thank you for this gift of yourself…it means more than you know.

Its so wonderful having you read my cards as your know soo much
about my authentic self and how you’ve seen me react..
character strengths and weaknesses and how to address to better myself.
Thank you for sharing your gifts with me

I waited…until I have the space and peace to read and absorb this.
That happened this morning. Soooo appropriate.

The reading for this week is VERY interesting (as always) I have been
“letting go” of much of my over achiever mindset to be kind to myself.

The Tarot Mini Drops are an intuitive way to push myself to think of
the issues that I dont think I have the energy to address.

I will absolutely be acting a fool in this weather. lol

I've been thinking about this! Creating schedules and mini goals so to speak.
Thank you Linda!!

Ugh hell yeah ? right on point!

I like it! The explanation of the card and its meaning are good and provide
good background for the actual interpretation. It’s well laid out and concise
and each section of information is self contained and easy to reference.
I say thumbs up.

Ty Linda. ?❤️ I'm off to work but will think on
these questions and write them down later

Definitely going to reflect on this and embrace sunshine where I find it
Thank you Linda ???

Damn, that one's pretty heavy and light all at the same time.
It's interesting how I've gotten these cards before but they
coincidence together differently.

Oooo a twofer!!! This sounds about right for sure.
I've been very hopeful about changes I'm habits.
And I know it's not gonna be easy.

Oh wow I totally thought I responded in the Justice one but I guess I never sent it.
Thank you! These are so good. I feel like we are on the otherside of the hump,
but I know there's still work to do!

Thanks, Linda. This could apply to several areas of my life right now.

I think it is very fitting that you pulled this card for me today because...
the whole High Priestess thing is reminding me that my intuition is strong.

Checkity check ?
Dont....over think will be what I tell myself for sure

Oooo this is a good one. ?
It definitely resonates for sure!

??✨️? thank you for the continued guidance.
This mini drop speaks to all the things surrounding me right now.

Thank you!! Definitely feeling this one too!

Love this, Linda. What a wonderful reading after a difficult week!

The thing I like most about the Tarot Mini-Drop is that theya are
quick to read, easy to digest and amazingly accurate. I have had
many readings done and these by far are the most consistently accurate.

This mini drop really made me think of what is truly important,
and what makes me happy. We recently received a gift and it's a
hummingbird feeder, and every time I need a boost of happiness
I think of them flying around it. ❤️ thank you for these wonderful drops.

I will be using that action plan!
? tame the beast!

Oh man! The fool two days in a row!
I feel like it.knows we are trying to weigh our options lol

Great card this week!!
Distractions are definitely my enemy this week.
I set focus every morning and a daily strategy
for blockers. But good to be extra mindful!

Yessss that was helpful for where my head space is ? thank you.

Thank you for my reading!!!!

I pulled for myself this morning though so
I'm excited to see what you pull for me today ?

Oh my goodness!! Lol ***** and I just had a conversation station
this morning about new plan of attack ? have a great week!!

Once again, Linda, your card and reading are right on target.
Thank you for these insights. They will be infused into my week.

Thanks for the cosmic lift today, Linda!!

This reading really resonates with me, Linda! Thank you for sharing!!

Oh man!!! This is definitely spot on lol
I was thinking about this card yesterday

I love this. It's right on point. And I have a couple days of
self care planned out ? happy new years!

Thank you so much!! Merry Christmas!! ? I did enjoy this!!
Perfect timing as I get some time off work to reflect and meditate.

The Hermit is my personality symbol in the tarot ?✨️
very fitting for the theme of the week for me

Thank you for that! I love that you are spending your energy on me!

Thank you!! This is a good one. I like it alot.
Very fitting for what's been going on in my life and head.

Dang love this one. Let's definitely find 20 minutes for a meditation!

I absolutley love this!! I think your right on the money.

Wow i LOVE this so so much!!!

Dayumn!

I love the last question, got a chuckle out of it haha!

Oh man Linda that's so cool! I love this! Thank you!


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Wow! Lots To Take In!
Good News Is That It Is Time To Put It All Together!

Step Three In Rebuild Your Life After Loss Is It Time To Re-Connect With Yourself? If so sign up here!

When we have agreed to work together,
You and I will schedule a 1 hour private session/5 weeks,
Or you & I can do all 5 sessions on 1 Saturday:

I will encourage you to keep going, even when it gets hard,
And in the last half of the last session, we will finetune & celebrate your reconnection with yourself!

You are stronger than ever, ready to face the world with renewed energy! Yeay! For You!

There Is Only One Thing Left To Do!
Action #6: Join Me For A FREE 1 Hour Group Session - Online Only
With You, I And No More Than 4 Others!

Those 4 could be family, friends, neighbors. It may also be someone new to you that has signed up from the site.

We Will Discuss Details Of The Workshop: Step 3 - "What's Right With You? Let's Count The Ways!"

Step Three In Rebuild Your Life After Loss Is It Time To Re-Connect With Yourself? If so sign up here for a group session

 

-I want to give you a taste of Tarot in action, with a 1 card /person reading to start this free session,
-then we discuss what is to be done in each of the 5 - 1 hour sessions, where we will "do" the work in Action #3, 4 and 5,
- set aside time each week to review the previous weeks work,
- set aside time to update and share overall personal progress,
- and we will also talk about the importance of staying connected, which is why we created our Community.

 

Then, I will talk about price:

Due to the one on one attention required by the actions in Step 3,
I will not be able to offer small group or self directed options, as in the other Steps.

Time To Sign Up In The Form Below!

When it's time for our FREE zoom session, make sure you have your favorite beverage for the time of day, a snack and to get as comfortable as possible. This will not be a high pressure session, it will be me helping you to get relief. You have been carrying a heavy load, let me take that weight off your shoulders for just a bit.

I look forward to meeting you to talk about
Workshop Step 3- What's Right With You! Let's Count The Ways!
Until we meet, peace and love to you! Linda Marie

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