The Purpose Of Step 4 Is To Help You Start Creating Your New Story.
It will be impossible to rebuild your inner life while living in a story that no longer exists.
List Of Action Steps - Click To View Each One
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The Decision Point
How I Started Creating My New Story
It Is Time To Create Your New Story
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Introduction To Step 4
The Purpose Of Actions #1-3 Are For Me To Help You Close The Old And Begin Writing Your New Story.
Action 1 - When you face your own Decision Point, which one will you choose? Return to the Step 4 Actions links for details on the Decision Point.
Action #2 - Is for those that want to rebuild their inner life after loss. I will guide you through a creative process to brainstorm and design your new story. I explain the time commitment required for me to help you start creating your new Story. I do this because Action #2, Step 4 require more time and privacy to complete than is available from this webpage.
Action #3- Sign up for a FREE 1 hour Group Session, with no more than 4 others. In this session, I will explain the details of how we will write this new story, you can introduce yourself, share a little bit of your current story and ask your questions!
Hi, Linda Marie here:
Something you need to know about me up front is that I have moments of thinking and spend too much time trying to "figure things out". But, when I am satisfied, I am ready to DO. That is why I use the word "Action" the way I do. Read, think, decide if this all feels right to you, and then let's go DO the actions listed in each Step together!
Step Four – You Are NOT This Old Story – It’s Time To Write A New One!
As you start to get used to carrying around the weight of the loss of your Loved One, you realize that your “life before loss” will never return. You can’t go back, but you also can’t go forward… with those old plans and dreams.
Totally crushed by this realization, I came face to face with what I call my Decision Point.
I felt like I had 3 choices:
- stop the clock, forever tapping replay on every memory of my life up to that point of loss
- give up, give in & fade away, letting the clock simply run out until I too am gone
- or, I could get a new improved clock, honoring my Loved Ones by rebuilding my inner life, & dreaming new dreams.
I Decided To Rebuild My Inner Life.
My decision point arrived at about one year into grieving my husband for a year and my son for 4. While taking a life coaching class, an instructor posed this statement to our class, "You are NOT your story," For days, I was so bothered by that statement, it was shaking things loose in the back of my mind. "Are you your story?" "Well, of course I am", I thought to myself. Who else could I be? And if this were not true, then who was I... or more importantly, who could I be, or become? This moved to the front of my mind and a week or so later I had a EUREKA type moment.
The Eureka moment was when I realized that I was NOT my current story,. I realized that this right here was the first step in starting over. It was also from a great place of strength and power. Using myself as an example, I am more than the mother, wife, daughter, sister or aunt of my 6 deceased loved ones. I was still and am a living, vibrant contributor to the world at large AND to myself in particular. And the next step in rebuilding my inner life was to remember this! I needed to close this chapter and write a new one. For the 1st time in my life, I cried for ME. I cried for that lovely person I had been as a mother, wife, daughter, sister and aunt. I cried for the very loss of my own self as I had cried for those that I had lost. And as my tears dried, I laughed deep belly laughs in anticipation of taking all the great parts of old me into a chapter of the new me. And I know my 6 loved ones were cheering me on from the other side!
Action 1: At Your Decision Point, What Will Your Choice Be?
This will be a very private, personal decision that will be honored by myself and all others within this Community. To proceed with the remaining Action Steps, this decision must already be made by you. Reach out to me for a private coaching session if you would like help making this decision. And please know that everyone reaches decision points in THEIR time, and that will be perfect for you!
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I Created A Way To Do It For Myself - And It Worked!
Now I Want To Share It With You.
Let's Start Here:
In great excitement, I wrote out a plan and instructions for myself, finetuning it as I experimented. Later on it became Step 4 of my signature workshops in "Rebuilding Your Inner Life After Loss". It is Step 4 NOT Step 1, because I wouldn't have been ready for this immediately after their losses. If you find that you ARE ready, don't worry about the number, just jump in with full energy and anticipation and get started!
In the first few years, I told the story of my loss over and over and over again.
At first, I had to tell:
- their loved ones, friends & business associates,
- those involved in their legal, financial and business lives.
Then I told it to myself as a way to:
- remember them out loud,
- remind myself that they had not been a figment of my imagination.
Then, I told the story:
- to hide behind it,
- to use it as a crutch,
- to shield me from life in general.
Now, I Share Bits Of Our Story, to Show You How To Take This 4th Step
In Rebuilding Your Inner Life After The Loss Of Your Loved One.
Action #2: I will Guide You Through A Creative Process To:
We will personalize strategies & then begin by:
- Separating & safely storing memories of your from the old story
- Recognizing that all memories "bad" or "good", molded and created you,
- And now, some of them may need to be released or retired,
To give you the hope, inspiration and freedom to now create the 1st pages of your new story.
And then I will help you brainstorm and design your new story!
When we have agreed to work together,
You and I will schedule a 1 hour private session/5 weeks,
Or you & 4 others can schedule a small group session of 5 hours/1 Saturday:
These 4 can be family members, close friends, or strangers who have signed up to rebuild after their own loss.
Each week, I will encourage you to keep going, even when it gets hard,
And in the last half of that final week, we will finetune & celebrate the beginning of your new story!
The sky is the limit and you are the creator!
The beauty of your story is that it can be changed, adjusted, or finetuned as you create it.
AKA for all you perfectionists: It is a work in progress, even when you get done & are living it!
There Is Only One Thing Left To Do!
Action #3: Sign Up For A FREE 1 Hour Group Session
With Me & No More Than 4 Others!
These 4 can be family members, close friends, or strangers who have signed up to rebuild after their own loss.
I will share a synopsis of the work to be done in each of the private 5 week sessions,
or during the 1 Day Small Group Intensive.
You can introduce yourself, share a little bit of your story and ask your questions!
Then, I will talk about the 3 different pricing plans available, these are:
1. Private sessions with me,
2. Or to allow for co-creation time with up to 4 others,
3. Or to enroll in a self-directed course, with check-in times as needed.
Time To Sign Up In The Form Below!
When it's time for our FREE zoom session, make sure you have your favorite beverage for the time of day, a snack and to get as comfortable as possible. This will not be a high pressure session, it will be me helping you to get relief. You have been carrying a heavy load, let me take that weight off your shoulders for just a bit.
I look forward to meeting with you soon! Sincerely, Linda Marie