The Purpose Of Step 4 Is To Help You Start Creating Your New Story.
It will be impossible to rebuild your inner life while living in a story that no longer exists.
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How I Started Creating My New Story
Step Four – You Are NOT This Old Story – It’s Time To Write A New One!
As you start to get used to carrying around the weight of the loss of your Loved One, you realize that your “life before loss” will never return. You can’t go back, but you also can’t go forward… with those old plans and dreams.
Totally crushed by this realization, I came face to face with what I call my Decision Point.
I felt like I had 3 choices:
- stop the clock, forever tapping replay on every memory of my life up to that point of loss
- give up, give in & fade away, letting the clock simply run out until I too am gone
- or, I could get a new improved clock, honoring my Loved Ones by rebuilding my inner life, & dreaming new dreams.
I Decided To Rebuild My Inner Life.
My decision point arrived at about one year into grieving my husband for a year and my son for 4. While taking a life coaching class, an instructor posed this statement to our class, "You are NOT your story," For days, I was so bothered by that statement, it was shaking things loose in the back of my mind. "Are you your story?" "Well, of course I am", I thought to myself. Who else could I be? And if this were not true, then who was I... or more importantly, who could I be, or become? This moved to the front of my mind and a week or so later I had a EUREKA type moment.
The Eureka moment was when I realized that I was NOT my current story,. I realized that this right here was the first step in starting over. It was also from a great place of strength and power. Using myself as an example, I am more than the mother, wife, daughter, sister or aunt of my 6 deceased loved ones. I was still and am a living, vibrant contributor to the world at large AND to myself in particular. And the next step in rebuilding my inner life was to remember this! I needed to close this chapter and write a new one. For the 1st time in my life, I cried for ME. I cried for that lovely person I had been as a mother, wife, daughter, sister and aunt. I cried for the very loss of my own self as I had cried for those that I had lost. And as my tears dried, I laughed deep belly laughs in anticipation of taking all the great parts of old me into a chapter of the new me. And I know my 6 loved ones were cheering me on from the other side!
Action 1: At Your Decision Point, What Will Your Choice Be?
This will be a very private, personal decision that will be honored by myself and all others within this Community. To proceed with the remaining Action Steps, this decision must already be made by you. Reach out to me for a private coaching session if you would like help making this decision. And please know that everyone reaches decision points in THEIR time, and that will be perfect for you!
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I Created A Way To Do It For Myself - And It Worked!
Now I Want To Share It With You.
Let's Start Here:
In great excitement, I wrote out a plan and instructions for myself, finetuning it as I experimented. Later on it became Step 4 of my signature workshops in "Rebuilding Your Inner Life After Loss". It is Step 4 NOT Step 1, because I wouldn't have been ready for this immediately after their losses. If you find that you ARE ready, don't worry about the number, just jump in with full energy and anticipation and get started!
In the first few years, I told the story of my loss over and over and over again.
At first, I had to tell:
- their loved ones, friends & business associates,
- those involved in their legal, financial and business lives.
Then I told it to myself as a way to:
- remember them out loud,
- remind myself that they had not been a figment of my imagination.
Then, I told the story:
- to hide behind it,
- to use it as a crutch,
- to shield me from life in general.
Now, I Share Bits Of Our Story, to Show You How To Take This 3rd Step
In Rebuilding Your Inner Life After The Loss Of Your Loved One.
There Is Only One Thing Left To Do!
Take Action #3:
Contact me, for a 30 minute free chat, so we can have a chance to meet first!
If you like what you hear, and want to get started,
I will give you the link to the sign up/scheduling details for either:
1. Private sessions with me,
2. Or to enroll in a self-directed course.
(*with either one of these options, you can choose to begin at any time)
If you are sharing this loss with others that may also want to create their own new stories,
I will give you the link to the sign up/scheduling details :
3. For co-creation time with up to 9 others in a small group intensive
held for 5 hours on a Saturday of the month
(*This intensive will be scheduled when there are at least 5 participants
that express interest in a specific date and may include family and friends,
or others who will join from the website)
Included with #1-3 will be the following:
4. My coaching adapts to fit you right where you are right now and includes measurable goals and outcomes.
5. Worksheets, or additional assets created to provide you with further assistance.
6. And after completion of your program, you will be invited to a private and ongoing group
composed of those who have also graduated from the "Creating Your New Story" sessions.
These will be held on the 4th Saturday of every month.
The purpose of this group is to ask questions, give and get feedback
creating community with those who are also stepping into their new stories.
Each week, I will encourage you to keep going, even when it gets hard,
And in the last half of that final week, we will finetune & celebrate the beginning of your new story!
The sky is the limit and you are the creator!
The beauty of your story is that it can be changed, adjusted, or finetuned as you create it.
AKA for all you perfectionists: It is a work in progress, even when you get done & are living it!