The Purpose Of Step 1 Is To Help You Survive The Recent Loss Of A Loved One.
Most importantly, I share how to separate your "real responsibilities" from the necessary, sacred need to grieve
List Of Action Step- Click To View Each One
Stop By For A Quick Intro!
When To Get Medical Assistance
Ways To Help Yourself - Your 1st Level Self-Care Tips
FREE Guided Meditations
How I Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving
Learn How YOU Can Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving
Join Me For A FREE 1 Hour Group Session About The Grief Zone - Online Only
Introduction To Step 1
The Purpose Of Actions In This Step Are To Give You Ways To Survive The Recent Loss Of A Loved One..
Most importantly, I share how to separate your "real responsibilities" from the necessary, sacred need to grieve.
These actions can be initiated/taken while you are on this webpage:
Action #1 - When To Get Medical Assistance - immediate or preventative, physical and mental health care.
Action #2 - Ways To Help Yourself: Your 1st Level Of Self Care Tips
Action #3 - 2 Free Guided Meditations
Because these actions require more time than can be given on this webpage,
they will be conducted in private or small groups, online only.
Action #4 - Learn How You Can Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving Intentionally
Action #5 - Join Me For A FREE 1 Hour Group Session About The Grief Zone - Online Only
Hi, Linda Marie here:
Something you need to know about me up front is that I have moments of thinking and spend too much time trying to "figure things out". But, when I am satisfied, I am ready to DO. That is why I use the word "Action" the way I do. Read, think, decide if this all feels right to you, and then let's go DO the actions listed in each Step together!
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Action #1: When To Get Medical Assistance:
Start With A Quick Assessment:
#1 Are you in crisis & need help right away?
If so - call 988(USA) RIGHT NOW.
Or click https://988lifeline.org/
#2 Do you have existing physical or mental health issues that feel worse because of your grief?
#3Do you have unfamiliar physical or mental health issues since this loss?
If You Answered Yes To #2 or #3 – Seek Medical Help Immediately.
Linda M Hughes,
Psychic Medium
Grief Coach
While Getting Medical Assistance,
Return To This Page Often - Lots To Take In!
Action #2 - You Can Help Yourself With 1st Level Self- Care Tips!
Self care is the most important priority always, especially after losing a loved one.
Deep, healing sleep matters most of all! After losing each of my loved ones, I retreated into myself sleeping as much as I could. The pain and overwhelm was so big, so unimaginable that my body completely shut down. I believe this was MY body's healthy response, while in sleep, the reality was gently rolling into my consciousness.
Grief is also physical. Whether you want to or not, make sure to eat balanced meals. Eat enough calories and nutrients to help your body get through this time. Drink water to stay hydrated.
Absolutely avoid alcohol or recreational drugs right now, you don't need the extra drama.
If you decide to follow this advice and have been a heavy drinker up to now, please ask those medical professionals for help in stopping. Depending on your consumption habits, quitting cold turkey could be dangerous.
Did you have a regular exercise routine before your loss?
If you did, modify it to fit and keep doing it. If you did not, consider taking up short walks in nature.
“Real life” won’t let you get away with “grieving” for long, or at all.
If you have family or friends nearby, let them help you. Let them send you food, help you take care of your affairs, help you keep track of and handle the immediate legal and financial details of death.
If you do not have any others that you can trust to do these things for you, hire out what you can. Or, if this is not possible, pace yourself. Consciously choose your most productive times of day to work on these issues. In this productive time only, prioritize by importance and get things done quickly. And then stop. Now is not the time to become bogged down with unnecessary busy work. Really! If it wasn't important before this loss, it can wait until later, when life is less chaotic!
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Need Help Making Self Care A Priority? Click To Book A Session.
For Those Days When It All Gets To Be Too Much,
Action #3 -I Share The Following 2 Free Guided Meditations With You:
If You Need To Turn Down:
The Noise Of Grief In Your Head
- Click to download this free mp3
Fifteen minutes long, it is recommended that you listen to it while laying down, either getting ready to nap or go to sleep.
If You Feel Like You Are Spinning Out Of Control &
Can’t Find Solid Ground:
Ground, Center, Stabilize
aka My Tree Of Life Meditation:
- Click to download this free mp3
Twelve minutes long, it works for anytime of day or night.
As recorded, you will need to lie down,
however, once learned, it fits any situation.
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Want Me To Help You Get Into A Routine With These Or Other Meditations? Click To Book A Session!
How I Manage "Real Life" Demands While Grieving:
As you know, grieving is not a choice. It's thrust upon you, shocking no matter how long you had to prepare for it. Want to curl up in a ball & just be left alone?
But real life is always butting in. And some things won’t wait. As time goes by, you figure out how to "muddle" through.
Right here and now, I want you to know that your new life is going to wait for you on the other side of the “muddle”. So don't let “muddling through” become a habit that you keep. Stay engaged in your life! Even when it sucks.
Here Is How I Do It.
I
Compartmentalize
My Life.
I wanted private time to grieve however I chose,
while dealing with real life issues.
So, I created a Grief Zone and I allocated time to it every day.
Because when I had to be in real life, I was all in.
But, I could escape at an appointed time, to enter the Grief Zone.
I cried, I screamed, I hugged my husband’s pillow, I held my son’s stinky T shirt to my nose. And later, when I lost my Mom, I gently caressed her personal mementos. Anything to be near them in some way. And it was fabulously ok.
I started an epic journal, because writing is my thing.
I chose to write about the pain and anguish of these experiences, storing it on my computer.
At times, it felt like I would never be able to leave this foggy, heart crushing grief.
After a particularly bad session, I would slam this book closed and stomp away.
Wow! The writing of it absolutely gave me:
a sense of peace over the things
that I had no control over &
could never change.
Walking away from it gave me a great sense of control.
So then I did this on purpose.
Eventually, I was able to spend less and less of my time in the Grief Zone.
Then and only then, was I able to start writing and living in the next chapters of my Book Of Life. Because, at my Decision Point, I chose to live full on, 100%.
I don’t have a title yet, but it might be “Learning To Live My Life Without My Loved Ones”.
Grief doesn’t end, you just get used to it.
Now, when I need to, I can bookmark the page in the current chapter, to slip back for a visit into my Grief Zone.
I also discovered that my Grief Zone became a safe haven for artistically and physically expressing this ultimate human experience.
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Like The Grief Zone, But You Need Help ASAP? Click To Book A Session.
Action #4 -Need A Break From "Real Life"? Need A Break From Your Grief?
If You Do & Want To Try What I Do, Let Me Help You Create Your Grief Zone!
Your Grief Zone is a “place” you create to:
...feel the grief, express it in a healthy way, and plant creative seeds for your own future,
as you build an evolving framework that balances your grief with creating a new life without your loved one.
Let Me Help You Create & Make Your Grief Zone
So That It Becomes Your #1 Super Self Care Habit!
When we have agreed to work together,
You and I will schedule a 1 hour private session/5 weeks,
Or you & 4 others can schedule a small group session of 5 hours/1 Saturday:
Each week, I will encourage you to keep going, even when it gets hard,
And in the last half of that final week, we will finetune & celebrate the beginning of your Grief Zone!
The sky is the limit and you are the creator!
Let me help you brainstorm and design this special "place" for grieving,
Which you can finetune on your own and as you use the space.
Action #5: There Is Only One Thing Left To Do!
Join Me For A FREE 1 Hour Group Session - Online Only
With You, I And No More Than 4 Others!
We Will Discuss All The Details About The Workshop: Step 1 - "How To Create Your Grief Zone!"
I will share a synopsis of the work to be done in each of the private 5 week sessions,
or during the 1 Day Small Group Intensive.
You can introduce yourself,
share a little bit of your story and ask your questions!
Then, I will talk about the 3 different pricing plans available, these are:
1. Private sessions with me,
2. Or to allow for co-creation time with up to 4 others,
3. Or to enroll in a self-directed course, with check-in times as needed.
Time To Sign Up In The Form Below!
When it's time for our FREE zoom session, make sure you have your favorite beverage for the time of day, a snack and to get as comfortable as possible. This will not be a high pressure session, it will be me helping you to get relief. You have been carrying a heavy load, let me take that weight off your shoulders for just a bit.
I look forward to meeting with you soon!
Sincerely, Linda Marie