One Journey Has Ended, Another Has Begun
Writing this on February 14, 2026, I officially declare that I have once again survived another February 8th since 2021 when I lost my cherished soulmate and husband of 44 years and February 12th since 2018, when I lost my cherished 27 year old son.
My daughter and I begin dreading the upcoming February in October, which is also the month I lost both my father on the 18th, 2008 and then my mother on the 16th, in 2024.
My daughter has suggested that we spend a week in each month in seclusion, by visiting a spiritual retreat in a foreign country far away, or by sheltering in a mountain cabin on top of the continental divide.
Of course, we haven't done any of this, although we are seriously considering a trip to Sedona, Arizona to immerse ourselves in the spiritual energies of the desert in spring.
But, as I wind my way through a spiritual path I did not request or want, I have learned that my grounding, centering and rebuilding must come from within. I have discovered that I am already "smart" enough and if I pay attention, "intuitive" enough to know what, where, when and how I can rebuild myself, without needing to leave my own home.
After reading the pages of this website, you may already know that one way I have done this is to put together solutions for others like myself. I have tried to take a more professional approach to building this business, because I want you to feel safe as you rebuild your inner life after your loss. I have intentionally downplayed the passion and fire I have to do this, because it overwhelms even me at times. But today only, I am going to give you a glimpse of it.
Here goes:
From many different artistic sources that I have witnessed, grief is described as being the love that you feel for your special person, that now has no other place to go.
I agree. At times, this grief/love has consumed me, always overwhelms me, and runs through every emotion I am capable of experiencing.
When it exhausts itself and I am in a moment of pause, I rest, recharge and once again turn to this website and my new goals. These new goals are where I now direct the energies that have accumulated from my losses. I still have the "sads", but I now flip these to "glads" in order to celebrate their lives and how they still impact mine. From February 14, 2024 to the present, I have packaged all of my experiences, combining them with practical, no nonsense actions that may guide others like myself away from their own explosive moments of loss. I have also sprinkled this practicality with the spicy mysteries of life as I see it. Don't worry, you can choose to ignore these, just like you might if you don't like tabasco sauce on your eggs, or cinnamon in your tea. But, please, find your own flavor of the spiritual, because in my grief, I have found this to be lifesaving.
When I dotted the last "i" and crossed the last "t" on this website, I looked up at the calendar and realized the date was February 7, 2026. I had been so consumed with the creating and building process, that the calendar pages flipped without me.
Now, I want to introduce you to what I have learned, what I want to share and extend my hand to you. I want to take you down a new road, where we can create new memories, build new lives and trade spices. I suspect that each and everyone of you that tune into "Our Place" and then climb the "Steps" will leave your own imprints within the site. And I welcome and eagerly await those moments. Welcome aboard!
