Linda M Hughes, Psychic Medium

Connecting With Your Loved One In Spirit: How Soon Is Too Soon?
with Linda M Hughes Psychic Medium

When I lost my son, although I wanted to connect with him, I was too overwhelmed with his loss to do anything about it. When I lost my husband, I just knew that the 2 of them would get together and share tips. Afterall, my husband already knew all the ways that I had tried and failed. He knew the things that worked. So, if they put their heads together, we could figure this out, right?

Well not exactly. When a friend offered to pay for a medium visit, I jumped right on it. How soon is too soon was not a question I asked. As I have shared in previous videos, his spirit was already returning home 3 days after his death, so that told me he was ready, right?

Well not exactly. My 1st visit with a medium was 2 weeks after my husband’s death. Upon arrival, the medium informed me that he was not ready and it was too soon. She informed us we should have told her when he had died, because she would have asked us to wait. It was not a wasted trip, because the medium informed us that my son was wanting to connect with us. My daughter and I accepted this substitution and we were finally able to make contact with him.

If not within 2 weeks, then when?

Here is what I have learned about this – first as a mom/wife in grief. And secondly, as a student and then practicing Medium.
1. The responsibility for explaining how things work is not yours to assume, it is for the Medium to explain, as the professional you hired to help you. Grief is hard enough without adding unnecessary drama to it all.
2. I will not try to initiate contact to set up a reading with your Loved One in Spirit any sooner than 3 months after they have died. There are 3 main reasons for this.

1st - You are the 1st reason and you MUST take priority now. No matter how many times you have experienced loss, no matter if you knew that it was coming or if it was a sudden or shocking loss, no matter how resilient, strong, & tough you are, this loss will knock you flat on your behind.

You may already know this, but grief is also painful, it physically hurts. And it doesn’t go away immediately, no matter how many Tylenol you take, or how many shots you drink. Please, give yourself a space of grace to feel the feels, hurt the hurts and to find healthier solutions for all of the physical reactions you will go through. Please consult with your physical or mental health professionals to get their help with this. If you don’t have one, I have included a link in the comments below where you can seek this help.

2nd - After thousands of years of evolution, I still don’t know why we humans can’t develop a more humane system for resolving the business and financial aftermath of dying. These are usually immediate, incessant and demand all of your time for those first days.

And that doesn’t even take into consideration trying to identify, wrap up and resolve plans that were actively on-going and in motion for/from/by and to your loved one.

#3: Your loved one. Whether they passed peacefully in their sleep after long, rewarding years of life, or died suddenly from violence or something random and stupid, and all points in between, they experienced the trauma of death 1st hand. I am not here to split hairs on what happened at death, because I won’t know til I die.

Erring on the side of extreme tenderness, respect and loving care, I ask you to allow them the space of grace necessary to make all of their own adjustments to their new existence while you make yours.

If you have questions, need more clarification or would like to talk about these things, please:
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Much peace, love and understanding for where you are right now. Thanks for your time while listening to this recording.